The ghostly love story of Amethyst Realm, 30, of Bristol in England, is making rounds of news all over the world-a spiritual guidance counselor by profession who chose unconventional romantic relations, notably with ghosts. In the year 2017, a very interesting case caught many people’s imagination as she had engaged in telling her fiancé, whom she named Ray, that it was now time to begin to raise a family.
Realm’s dive into the supernatural world of love started when she made claims of having intimate relationships with 15 ghosts. After first appearing to share her story on ITV’s This Morning, she described her spiritual relationships as way hotter than any with a human. It was on a work trip in 2018, however, that she met the ghost of her life while she was in Australia.
Out in the Australian bush, Realm went on a walk, which took her into “an incredible energy.” She knew him as Ray, and she became so enwrapped in their bond-following her through to England-until that was nurtured in ways she may hardly remember into a deepened relationship.
Things took a romantic turn when Ray proposed to Realm during a visit to the Wookey Hole caves in Somerset. She described this as surrealist because, for the first time, she heard Ray’s voice deep, sexy, and so real. Smitten, she agreed to his proposal. The couple subsequently made plans for a Pagan ceremony of union.
Not content with just being married, Realm expressed a great desire for a family with Ray. She spoke about her openly acknowledged belief of a “phantom pregnancy” that could eventually take on the form of a human child. Again, just how that would occur is not something she elaborates on with any detail, but she wishes, as that depth of feeling and spirituality between her and Ray is enough.
The claims made by Realm have received both interest and skepticism in equal measure. Some find her story intriguing, while others have doubts about whether it actually happened. Her story taps into a wider cultural fascination with the paranormal and alternative relationships.
Psychologists believe that belief in the supernatural is intuitively and narratively endorsed, especially among young people and women. Realm’s story, unusual as it is, speaks to anyone who has ever wondered what love and human attachment can look like.
Public interest in Realm’s story reflects a broader public fascination with a love out of the ordinary, and therefore perhaps out of the realm of many traditional understandings. To be sure, being in love and engaged to a ghost seriously problematizes that common ideal of partnership and can therefore raise certain questions about what intimacy, belief, and emotional connection are or even are like.
